…a that if you make that choice to parent, it’s the only real thing that can matter outside of work, so we must wholeheartedly support every single thing you do for your child while placing our non-child activities to the bottom of the pile.
But literally nobody in this discussion is saying that! I’m certainly not. You’re trying to broaden a very specific point that Petra Guglielmetti was making into something nobody is saying.
My childcare is not my co-workers’ problem (and indeed, that’s one of the reasons I’ve chosen to be self-employed). But if you have to leave at 4.50pm to pick up your child from nursery, that’s a hard and unavoidable deadline. So you need to get the work done before you go, or make it up afterwards.
A parent who expects others to pick up the slack is not being a responsible parent or a responsible co-worker. And I’m sorry if you’ve had that problem with your co-wrokers — but that’s because they’re a bit crap, not because they’re parents. As I said, you are arguing against a point that nobody has made.
It’s probably worth remembering that many parents spent a while as non-parent adult before they took the plunge — 20 years in my case…